Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Change Your Mind ~ Change Your Life!
The benchmark of my work is the Power of the Mind: the power that is readily available to you. Our subconscious mind in limitless in what it can do. There is so much research I have read about this topic, meaning it is soundly scientific. On a more personal note, I have seen some pretty amazing things happen once a person starts to embrace this concept ~ the understanding of the Mind. There are changes I have seen people make in their lives due to this idea alone, when many other attempts to make their life better have failed.
One example is Brooke, a morbidly obese woman who came to me for help with her relationship. She really wasn't looking for help with her weight as she had "tried everything" , only to find herself caught up in the yo-yo weight gain/loss scenario. She was content enough with her weight. But working in health care she knew all the risks involved. We worked with techniques involving "changing her mind" including hypnotherapy, for changing the way her mind was working against her in regard to her weight. The results were truly remarkable!
You see, we program our own minds. We do it every minute, every second of the day. We get caught up in the problems and issues that come our way. We are bombarded by sensory intake ~ what we see, hear, touch etc. And it sets our conscious minds a spinning. For Brooke, every time she saw her image in a mirror or reflected in a window, her mind told her she was fat. And what we tell our self becomes true. In other words, even though Brooke was obese, she unknowingly was creating a life-long self fulfilling prophesy to stay obese. Our subconscious mind "obeys" what our conscious (thinking) mind thinks or says.
Have you ever listened in on what your own mind is saying? This "flowing stream of consciousness" is like a radio station. Stop and ask yourself if you like what it is playing.
Do this often, and you will have a profoundly important key of understanding and changing your life.
I will confess there are times that I get caught up on a channel that I do not like. I may be obsessing about a problem and interestingly enough, while I am on that channel my emotional well being is... frankly, not so well. Focusing on problems and annoyances can leave us feeling emotionally upset. When you ponder this, it only makes sense. Remember, what we focus on grows!
Another person I worked with was "Steve". He felt his life was nearly destroyed; someone very close to him died a horrible death in an unbelievable accident. He was the first one on the accident scene and he could not get the picture of the loved one out of his mind. He was haunted by it. Hearing his story would reduce anyone to tears. We successfully used hypnotherapy and mindful techniques. Today Steve has nothing but wonderful memories of his loved one. He still finds the results, and what he can now do with the power of his mind miraculous.
What we need to learn is how to " switch channels" so to speak. Why would we want to waste our time getting all worked up about this or that, when we can be enjoying peace of mind and being centered. It is that which can give us the assurance that whatever the problem is, it will be taken care of. Why, because our incredible subconscious mind is without limit. It is the place of creative (problem solving) thinking. And I believe it is also the place where our soul meets with the Creative Energy of Love that we call God.
So the next time you find yourself on a channel that is not "music to your ears" change it! You owe it to yourself to feed your mind the information that you want programmed.This is the gateway to reducing the menacing emotions and wasteful thinking that holds us back.
Until next time,
Blessings and love to you and those you love,
Dr. DyAnn
PS. I have just a few openings left for when I will be in Green Bay during my next visit. Please contact me if you are interested d.buechler@yahoo.com
Monday, April 13, 2009
Journey thru the Forest
Imagine if you will, that you are traveling along a beautiful path thru an ancient and magical forest. No stress, just enjoying the scenery - the sunlight flickering thru the ancient trees, the natural smells that are so relaxing.... ah, just wonder-ful. Give yourself a moment or two now if you would like, to enjoy this peacefulness.
I often use that metaphor to describe life as being exactly like that scene. I see my own self and this old wooden cart as I make my way along the path. That path is mine as well as yours. We all travel along on our journey thru life. We try to stay on course, but we kind of veer off toward the left edge, then the right, as we go along on our way. At times I wonder how the heck my cart ended up in the woods, turned over with the wheels spinning! It is as if my awareness took a vacation and it is a mystery to me how this happened!
We all have times that our cart goes off course: something about our life is in shambles.
It may be something that occurs suddenly. Other times it is a situation that goes from bad to worse. You might be dealing with one of those scenarios right now.
I used to wonder what takes us off that magical path. Was it fate? Luck? Someone getting in my way? I would be perplexed as to how I could be just humming along with life going beautifully and then lose my way. Talk about frustrating!
There is one common denominator that takes our "cart" off that magical road., even though there are hundreds upon hundreds of kinds of burdens we find we must face: stuff with our family, adult relationships, divorce, job issues, self esteem, finances, what we want and don't get, what we got and don't want! The list goes on and on. Our life can and does get messy.
What makes THE DIFFERENCE during those times of trouble is whether we forget or remember what powerful beings we really are. Call it "attitude", "mind set" or what ever works for you. The word that works for me is "fear". If I let my fear get away from me, I will guarantee that my cart will end up in the woods, not only overturned, but maybe with the wheels off.
But even that scene is no where near impossible to remedy. I don't have to look for AAA to come along on the path. I simply need to go back into my mind, and realize that I have all the power I need to remedy the situation.
Let me give you an example. Jill is recently divorced. This really took the wind out of her sails. The marriage should have ended long ago. Perhaps because it dragged on, the divorce proceedings were pretty nasty. Her spouse did lots of finger pointing and blaming that it was all her fault. Of course during the marriage all that went wrong was - yes you guessed it - her fault too. When I counseled her she was pretty beaten down. Her attractive face wore the burden of all that negativity. She felt pretty powerless.
If Jill (as well as her former spouse) is going to really get the full benefit of the divorce (and Life), there is one thing she must remember to do. And it is the same thing that all of us must remember to do each day if we are to have a successful life.
Remember that cart and the pathway in the beautiful forest? That metaphor represents you. The forest represents the many details of life, the path is our own personal journey, and the cart is our mind. As we successfully use our mind, our journey thru the forest can be delightful. We successfully make our way thru the challenges that come our way. We are secure in knowing that our cart (Mind) will take us where ever we choose to go. If we stop believing this and let the cart wander, of course it will end up in an unpleasant place. How big of a mystery is that?
Einstein once said something to the effect that a problem cannot be solved with the same mind that created it. Sorry I can't recall quite how the quote goes. But the gist of the saying is that we have a part of our mind that is all powerful, all knowing. We are creative and powerful beyond our wildest dreams.
My wish is for you to remember who you are and the true power that you have in making your life truly magnificent.
Until next time
Namaste,
Dr. DyAnn
I often use that metaphor to describe life as being exactly like that scene. I see my own self and this old wooden cart as I make my way along the path. That path is mine as well as yours. We all travel along on our journey thru life. We try to stay on course, but we kind of veer off toward the left edge, then the right, as we go along on our way. At times I wonder how the heck my cart ended up in the woods, turned over with the wheels spinning! It is as if my awareness took a vacation and it is a mystery to me how this happened!
We all have times that our cart goes off course: something about our life is in shambles.
It may be something that occurs suddenly. Other times it is a situation that goes from bad to worse. You might be dealing with one of those scenarios right now.
I used to wonder what takes us off that magical path. Was it fate? Luck? Someone getting in my way? I would be perplexed as to how I could be just humming along with life going beautifully and then lose my way. Talk about frustrating!
There is one common denominator that takes our "cart" off that magical road., even though there are hundreds upon hundreds of kinds of burdens we find we must face: stuff with our family, adult relationships, divorce, job issues, self esteem, finances, what we want and don't get, what we got and don't want! The list goes on and on. Our life can and does get messy.
What makes THE DIFFERENCE during those times of trouble is whether we forget or remember what powerful beings we really are. Call it "attitude", "mind set" or what ever works for you. The word that works for me is "fear". If I let my fear get away from me, I will guarantee that my cart will end up in the woods, not only overturned, but maybe with the wheels off.
But even that scene is no where near impossible to remedy. I don't have to look for AAA to come along on the path. I simply need to go back into my mind, and realize that I have all the power I need to remedy the situation.
Let me give you an example. Jill is recently divorced. This really took the wind out of her sails. The marriage should have ended long ago. Perhaps because it dragged on, the divorce proceedings were pretty nasty. Her spouse did lots of finger pointing and blaming that it was all her fault. Of course during the marriage all that went wrong was - yes you guessed it - her fault too. When I counseled her she was pretty beaten down. Her attractive face wore the burden of all that negativity. She felt pretty powerless.
If Jill (as well as her former spouse) is going to really get the full benefit of the divorce (and Life), there is one thing she must remember to do. And it is the same thing that all of us must remember to do each day if we are to have a successful life.
Remember that cart and the pathway in the beautiful forest? That metaphor represents you. The forest represents the many details of life, the path is our own personal journey, and the cart is our mind. As we successfully use our mind, our journey thru the forest can be delightful. We successfully make our way thru the challenges that come our way. We are secure in knowing that our cart (Mind) will take us where ever we choose to go. If we stop believing this and let the cart wander, of course it will end up in an unpleasant place. How big of a mystery is that?
Einstein once said something to the effect that a problem cannot be solved with the same mind that created it. Sorry I can't recall quite how the quote goes. But the gist of the saying is that we have a part of our mind that is all powerful, all knowing. We are creative and powerful beyond our wildest dreams.
My wish is for you to remember who you are and the true power that you have in making your life truly magnificent.
Until next time
Namaste,
Dr. DyAnn
Monday, April 6, 2009
Brain Power
By now you realize that I have a huge interest in how our brains work. I thought it might be interesting to have a few inside peeks at some things that go on with our brains. I hope you find some thing that is helpful for you.
I used to have the world's record for misplaced car keys until a dear friend gave me one of those giant clips. I always use it to attach them to my purse. I think she got tired of time wasted running around looking for my lost keys. (Hi Jane!)
The way our brains work, we can reduce moments of forgetfulness by jazzing up our temporal lobes. That is the portion of the brain where short term memory is stored. From short term location, items are either moved along into long term or tossed because they are no longer needed. So, how do we increase nerve activity in the temporal lobe? Take on new challenges! Something as simple as learning a new card game, taking a cooking class, even finding a new route to work gets that sleepy temporal lobe up and moving again. And no more of those embarrassing moments of forgetting where you left your CAR in the mall parking lot!
One of my favorite researchers in Dr. Daniel Amen of UC Irvine. He is a real pioneer in brain research and imaging. Also, if you want to take a great self test to learn if you have any form of ADD check him out on line. You will find an amazing wealth of information that may prove to be helpful.
Now that we have our car and our keys let's talk about SAD (Seasonal Affect Disorder). The further north we go the greater the incidence of "winter depression". I have had clients who are almost debilitated by it. SAD is caused by a drop in dopamine. Dopamine keeps the brain working correctly as it is a central nervous system stimulant. Without it symptoms of depression rise.
A little known fact is that when we change to a more typical summer diet and eat less protein, our dopamine levels drop as does our ability to concentrate and focus. So, be sure to get enough protein (4 oz of meat daily for example) so that your brain's supply of the amino acids work to bring the dopamine levels up. For those of us on a vegetarian diet, this is an extra caution. Some of my clients swear by using tanning beds once a week for 15 minutes (along with imaging that Caribbean vacation). University of Miami researchers report that a 15 minute massage (even a self massage) boosts the brain's ability to focus and stay on track. They explain that it rids us of stress, which throws off the brain's natural chemical balance. So whatever helps you to reduce stress also helps your brain chemistry, thus putting you in a better mood.
Sleep disruptions impact our brain chemistry. Acetylcholine is a neurotransmitter which impacts the speed of the functioning of our brain cells. Something as simple as changing the time you go to sleep can disrupt this delicate balance. One result can be difficulty with recall- you know, having the word "on the tip of your tongue." Dr Pavel Yutsis author of Why Can't I Remember (Avery) suggests increasing the intake of the amino acids found in eggs, soy, rice and leafy greens. You can also take the amino acid as a supplement _ phosphatidylserine. It will take up to 12 weeks to correct the deficiency but memory and ability for recall is said to improve by 15 percent. I have not had anyone try this, but this is what the research is saying.
This information is just the tip of the ice burg in the fascinating world of our amazing mind. I would remind you to speak with a trusted health professional who has an awareness of the information shared here. I have found folks who run vitamin stores to be a good resource.
A happy heart probably has the best impact on creating a healthy mind! And from that point the mind is LIMITLESS in what it can do.
Be a joy to others and it will come back to you!
Dr. DyAnn
I used to have the world's record for misplaced car keys until a dear friend gave me one of those giant clips. I always use it to attach them to my purse. I think she got tired of time wasted running around looking for my lost keys. (Hi Jane!)
The way our brains work, we can reduce moments of forgetfulness by jazzing up our temporal lobes. That is the portion of the brain where short term memory is stored. From short term location, items are either moved along into long term or tossed because they are no longer needed. So, how do we increase nerve activity in the temporal lobe? Take on new challenges! Something as simple as learning a new card game, taking a cooking class, even finding a new route to work gets that sleepy temporal lobe up and moving again. And no more of those embarrassing moments of forgetting where you left your CAR in the mall parking lot!
One of my favorite researchers in Dr. Daniel Amen of UC Irvine. He is a real pioneer in brain research and imaging. Also, if you want to take a great self test to learn if you have any form of ADD check him out on line. You will find an amazing wealth of information that may prove to be helpful.
Now that we have our car and our keys let's talk about SAD (Seasonal Affect Disorder). The further north we go the greater the incidence of "winter depression". I have had clients who are almost debilitated by it. SAD is caused by a drop in dopamine. Dopamine keeps the brain working correctly as it is a central nervous system stimulant. Without it symptoms of depression rise.
A little known fact is that when we change to a more typical summer diet and eat less protein, our dopamine levels drop as does our ability to concentrate and focus. So, be sure to get enough protein (4 oz of meat daily for example) so that your brain's supply of the amino acids work to bring the dopamine levels up. For those of us on a vegetarian diet, this is an extra caution. Some of my clients swear by using tanning beds once a week for 15 minutes (along with imaging that Caribbean vacation). University of Miami researchers report that a 15 minute massage (even a self massage) boosts the brain's ability to focus and stay on track. They explain that it rids us of stress, which throws off the brain's natural chemical balance. So whatever helps you to reduce stress also helps your brain chemistry, thus putting you in a better mood.
Sleep disruptions impact our brain chemistry. Acetylcholine is a neurotransmitter which impacts the speed of the functioning of our brain cells. Something as simple as changing the time you go to sleep can disrupt this delicate balance. One result can be difficulty with recall- you know, having the word "on the tip of your tongue." Dr Pavel Yutsis author of Why Can't I Remember (Avery) suggests increasing the intake of the amino acids found in eggs, soy, rice and leafy greens. You can also take the amino acid as a supplement _ phosphatidylserine. It will take up to 12 weeks to correct the deficiency but memory and ability for recall is said to improve by 15 percent. I have not had anyone try this, but this is what the research is saying.
This information is just the tip of the ice burg in the fascinating world of our amazing mind. I would remind you to speak with a trusted health professional who has an awareness of the information shared here. I have found folks who run vitamin stores to be a good resource.
A happy heart probably has the best impact on creating a healthy mind! And from that point the mind is LIMITLESS in what it can do.
Be a joy to others and it will come back to you!
Dr. DyAnn
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Getting the Love You Need
I have a question for you. How do you know get the love you need?
It seems like I get a lot of mail and have many sessions in which "love" is a major issue...whether is it a couple who seem to have fallen out of love, a person who is looking back at issues of their family of origin, or in a dating relationship.
In the end, what each of us needs is to be loved. We need to know that we are "lovable" and that "knowing" tends to come from outside one self. When we are more aware, we realize it comes from the inside and we know how to tap into it. But that does not lessen the impact of outside influences. In fact much of who we are , or think of who we are, comes from the cues that we get from others. Ladies, a prime example is wearing a new outfit. If someone tells you that you look great, doesn't that feel good? Suddenly that outfit is even sweeter.
I will tell you a little secret and it is one you are welcome to use. When I wake up in the morning and things don't go my way - leading me to a possible downward spiral and what looks like the beginning of a bad day, I pull a special outfit from the closet. One that I always get compliments on. The reason I do this is obvious. I will get the outside affirmation and it will go by "emotional osmosis" to the inside. It will make me feel better. My bad day vanishes. Hey, it's an easy little psychological trick, but if it will pick me up, why not use it?
And on the other side of the coin, remember that you never know when someone may be faking it thru their day. Just wanting to be home with a hot cup of tea and a TV show to make them laugh. YOU can be the person to give them something special that will carry them more successfully thru their day. What an awesome privilege. What power!
I promise you from the perspective of the recipient that it feels really great to have someone notice some thing cool or good about me and let me know. You have all had that experience. And I also promise you that when you are the person who is giving the positive energy that it also feels really good and is guaranteed to uplift you. Friends. co-workers, store clerks, everyone can use what you can so freely give. It changes the energy of the person in a positive way.
We have all had the experience of feeling "up", having a good day, only to have an "E-yore" moment threaten to dampen our spirits(not sure how it is spelled but he's the character from Winnie the Pooh who is always down and negative). So, having experienced that negative bummer experience, you know how your mood (energy) can be and is impacted. It's exactly the same principle: your energy can be brought down, it can be brought up.
You see, everything is energy. That includes our emotions. And thus our emotions can be and are impacted by the energy around us. It is no different from the ability of the wind to chill us.
Using that metaphor, avoid the chilly wind, and bring sunshine to yourself by being around people who cheer you on and champion you.
And if you are in a situation where that "sunshine" is difficult to locate, nothing to worry about. YOU can be the one who creates the positive impact - with yourself at the center!
What a delight life is when we realize these things.
Warmly yours,
Until next time,
Dr. DyAnn
It seems like I get a lot of mail and have many sessions in which "love" is a major issue...whether is it a couple who seem to have fallen out of love, a person who is looking back at issues of their family of origin, or in a dating relationship.
In the end, what each of us needs is to be loved. We need to know that we are "lovable" and that "knowing" tends to come from outside one self. When we are more aware, we realize it comes from the inside and we know how to tap into it. But that does not lessen the impact of outside influences. In fact much of who we are , or think of who we are, comes from the cues that we get from others. Ladies, a prime example is wearing a new outfit. If someone tells you that you look great, doesn't that feel good? Suddenly that outfit is even sweeter.
I will tell you a little secret and it is one you are welcome to use. When I wake up in the morning and things don't go my way - leading me to a possible downward spiral and what looks like the beginning of a bad day, I pull a special outfit from the closet. One that I always get compliments on. The reason I do this is obvious. I will get the outside affirmation and it will go by "emotional osmosis" to the inside. It will make me feel better. My bad day vanishes. Hey, it's an easy little psychological trick, but if it will pick me up, why not use it?
And on the other side of the coin, remember that you never know when someone may be faking it thru their day. Just wanting to be home with a hot cup of tea and a TV show to make them laugh. YOU can be the person to give them something special that will carry them more successfully thru their day. What an awesome privilege. What power!
I promise you from the perspective of the recipient that it feels really great to have someone notice some thing cool or good about me and let me know. You have all had that experience. And I also promise you that when you are the person who is giving the positive energy that it also feels really good and is guaranteed to uplift you. Friends. co-workers, store clerks, everyone can use what you can so freely give. It changes the energy of the person in a positive way.
We have all had the experience of feeling "up", having a good day, only to have an "E-yore" moment threaten to dampen our spirits(not sure how it is spelled but he's the character from Winnie the Pooh who is always down and negative). So, having experienced that negative bummer experience, you know how your mood (energy) can be and is impacted. It's exactly the same principle: your energy can be brought down, it can be brought up.
You see, everything is energy. That includes our emotions. And thus our emotions can be and are impacted by the energy around us. It is no different from the ability of the wind to chill us.
Using that metaphor, avoid the chilly wind, and bring sunshine to yourself by being around people who cheer you on and champion you.
And if you are in a situation where that "sunshine" is difficult to locate, nothing to worry about. YOU can be the one who creates the positive impact - with yourself at the center!
What a delight life is when we realize these things.
Warmly yours,
Until next time,
Dr. DyAnn
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Calm within the Storm
I was working with a woman a few weeks ago (I'll call her Kelly) on decision making. Her issue as she stated it, is that she can't seem to make a decision as small as what to order off the menu. Kelly is a very bright woman. She has a sharp mind and even without testing her I know she has a pretty high IQ. Kelly is not bothered by things like whether to order the chocolate cream or strawberry pie. She accepts it as part of her personality.
However, what does create a serious impact on her life is how Kelly "second guesses" herself when it comes to decisions that count. She can gather the facts, weigh each possible outcome, factor in her own values, interview trusted friends, come up with the best decision, have a plan and a time line. Then she freezes and starts the "what ifs" which are exemplary of fear and doubt.
Kelly is in the middle of a life changing decision about her marriage. Divorce, separation, stay with a man who won't work on things. And she went through the above standard decision making process. She searched her heart. And she knew that she was never going to attain happiness at any level while remaining in this marriage. Many details over a long period of time told her that. The decision to leave was difficult because of her values; when she said "forever" she meant it. But over the years the marriage had dissolved in every other way than officially.
When Kelly was finally able to come to her decision, true to the old pattern, she began to vacillate. The "what ifs" haunted her. She felt like she was right back to where she started with not knowing what to do.
When I saw Kelly for our last appointment she greeted me with a big smile and a sense of calm. "I have decided. And I am sure about it." Her face told the story of her inner confidence.
Of course I asked her how she pulled this miracle off!
She had a difficult time putting it into words. Things that are of a spiritual nature always are more difficult to describe. In essence she connected with what I call our Inner Knowing.
It could also be called instinct, intuition, the "still small voice within", or the God part within us. There are those of you who have learned to trust this. No one is without it. It is how we are guided. Terms like "something just told me" or "I had a hunch" are phrases we might hear as to how this phenomenon is described. This inner ability is also the part that makes the hair stand up on the back of our neck when we are in danger. It creates "coincidences" that light our pathway.
If you want to know how to connect with this wondrous part of you, it is very easy. Simply be calm. When we quiet the chattering of our thinking brain, what is left is the amazing gift of our knowing, creative, limitless mind.
Until next time - seek and enjoy the calm within,
Dr. DyAnn
However, what does create a serious impact on her life is how Kelly "second guesses" herself when it comes to decisions that count. She can gather the facts, weigh each possible outcome, factor in her own values, interview trusted friends, come up with the best decision, have a plan and a time line. Then she freezes and starts the "what ifs" which are exemplary of fear and doubt.
Kelly is in the middle of a life changing decision about her marriage. Divorce, separation, stay with a man who won't work on things. And she went through the above standard decision making process. She searched her heart. And she knew that she was never going to attain happiness at any level while remaining in this marriage. Many details over a long period of time told her that. The decision to leave was difficult because of her values; when she said "forever" she meant it. But over the years the marriage had dissolved in every other way than officially.
When Kelly was finally able to come to her decision, true to the old pattern, she began to vacillate. The "what ifs" haunted her. She felt like she was right back to where she started with not knowing what to do.
When I saw Kelly for our last appointment she greeted me with a big smile and a sense of calm. "I have decided. And I am sure about it." Her face told the story of her inner confidence.
Of course I asked her how she pulled this miracle off!
She had a difficult time putting it into words. Things that are of a spiritual nature always are more difficult to describe. In essence she connected with what I call our Inner Knowing.
It could also be called instinct, intuition, the "still small voice within", or the God part within us. There are those of you who have learned to trust this. No one is without it. It is how we are guided. Terms like "something just told me" or "I had a hunch" are phrases we might hear as to how this phenomenon is described. This inner ability is also the part that makes the hair stand up on the back of our neck when we are in danger. It creates "coincidences" that light our pathway.
If you want to know how to connect with this wondrous part of you, it is very easy. Simply be calm. When we quiet the chattering of our thinking brain, what is left is the amazing gift of our knowing, creative, limitless mind.
Until next time - seek and enjoy the calm within,
Dr. DyAnn
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Creating Impact!
What did Henry Ford, Albert Einstein, and Thomas Jefferson have in common?
Each of these well known people understood and worked with the power of the mind. Each understood and successfully utilized the unlimited power of their mind. And each understood that one cannot solve a problem by using the conscious (thinking) part of the mind. I believe it was Einstein who said that one cannot solve a problem with the same part of the mind that created the problem.
Each of these people had no greater a mind than you and I have! What made the difference for them (and many other successful people) is they knew about how the mind works and put it to good use to achieve their goals.
Those of you who have worked with me know that my specialty is all about the power of the mind. When we are calm and relaxed we leave behind the conscious or thinking mind, and enter the magical creative world of the subconscious mind. Knowing how to become calm and relaxed is a key to controlling your mind and thus your life circumstances.
An interesting and powerful principle of the mind is that the subconscious mind listens and obeys what your conscious mind thinks about. It will produce results! It may take time (or not) but it will happen. That is what the popular book "The Secret" was trying to say.
So if you are thinking about all the hype in the news now in reference to the gloom and doom of the economy, guess what? The subconscious mind believes and follows thru like an obedient servant. Fear is created and we magnetize more negative events to ourselves. Then we react to these negative events with more negative thinking and maybe even toss in creating a little depression. The downward spiral can be endless. (But so can the upward spiral!)
Or we can turn off the television set and focus on something that is more positive and meaningful. Remember, what you focus on grows. It may take time, but the way the Universal laws work, I guarantee it will grow, just like seeds in a garden. This is the Law of Manifestation. Thoughts create. Energy follows thought.
Years ago, before I studied and began to understand these concepts, I had a really powerful and potentially dangerous circumstance that demonstrated them beyond a doubt. I was on my way to my therapist's office. I had been working on understanding my family of origin or FOO in therapist shorthand. Before I go any further, please be very careful in the therapist you choose. You can e mail me if you want any tips and pointers. d.buechler@yahoo.com
Now this misguided therapist was a big believer in the expression of emotion in order to release it. I thought I was sad about my FOO but she pointed out that I was angry and that I needed to focus and concentrate on this anger in order to release it. Being young and well, dumb when it comes to these things, I listened to her expert advice.
So there I was on my way to my appointment and I realized I had not done my homework! So driving along I whipped myself into the "I feel angry" mode. I needed to release that anger just as my therapist had directed! So right there at the intersection of Mason and Military....
POW BOOM CRRRAAAASSSSHHHHH!
Yes, I was involved in an accident.... and it was not my fault. A guy in an oncoming car made a left turn directly into my path and crashed into me.
But, in another way, it was of my doing. Why? Think about it.
What we focus on grows. What we think about creates. Feelings are magnificently ( or horribly) powerful!!! What we focus on, especially in a concentrated manner, creates quite rapidly due to that concentration of energy. Remember in a prior blog I wrote about things both visible and invisible being at their core, energy. Energy operates in a universal manner. What we put out comes back to us. I wonder if the guy in the other car was practicing getting in touch with his anger!
In a future blog I will share with you another powerful experience that had to do with the power of thoughts and how they create... it is much more positive in nature... I still tear up thinking about it.
Until then,
May your thoughts be loving and kind,
Peace and love,
Dr. DyAnn
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Each of these well known people understood and worked with the power of the mind. Each understood and successfully utilized the unlimited power of their mind. And each understood that one cannot solve a problem by using the conscious (thinking) part of the mind. I believe it was Einstein who said that one cannot solve a problem with the same part of the mind that created the problem.
Each of these people had no greater a mind than you and I have! What made the difference for them (and many other successful people) is they knew about how the mind works and put it to good use to achieve their goals.
Those of you who have worked with me know that my specialty is all about the power of the mind. When we are calm and relaxed we leave behind the conscious or thinking mind, and enter the magical creative world of the subconscious mind. Knowing how to become calm and relaxed is a key to controlling your mind and thus your life circumstances.
An interesting and powerful principle of the mind is that the subconscious mind listens and obeys what your conscious mind thinks about. It will produce results! It may take time (or not) but it will happen. That is what the popular book "The Secret" was trying to say.
So if you are thinking about all the hype in the news now in reference to the gloom and doom of the economy, guess what? The subconscious mind believes and follows thru like an obedient servant. Fear is created and we magnetize more negative events to ourselves. Then we react to these negative events with more negative thinking and maybe even toss in creating a little depression. The downward spiral can be endless. (But so can the upward spiral!)
Or we can turn off the television set and focus on something that is more positive and meaningful. Remember, what you focus on grows. It may take time, but the way the Universal laws work, I guarantee it will grow, just like seeds in a garden. This is the Law of Manifestation. Thoughts create. Energy follows thought.
Years ago, before I studied and began to understand these concepts, I had a really powerful and potentially dangerous circumstance that demonstrated them beyond a doubt. I was on my way to my therapist's office. I had been working on understanding my family of origin or FOO in therapist shorthand. Before I go any further, please be very careful in the therapist you choose. You can e mail me if you want any tips and pointers. d.buechler@yahoo.com
Now this misguided therapist was a big believer in the expression of emotion in order to release it. I thought I was sad about my FOO but she pointed out that I was angry and that I needed to focus and concentrate on this anger in order to release it. Being young and well, dumb when it comes to these things, I listened to her expert advice.
So there I was on my way to my appointment and I realized I had not done my homework! So driving along I whipped myself into the "I feel angry" mode. I needed to release that anger just as my therapist had directed! So right there at the intersection of Mason and Military....
POW BOOM CRRRAAAASSSSHHHHH!
Yes, I was involved in an accident.... and it was not my fault. A guy in an oncoming car made a left turn directly into my path and crashed into me.
But, in another way, it was of my doing. Why? Think about it.
What we focus on grows. What we think about creates. Feelings are magnificently ( or horribly) powerful!!! What we focus on, especially in a concentrated manner, creates quite rapidly due to that concentration of energy. Remember in a prior blog I wrote about things both visible and invisible being at their core, energy. Energy operates in a universal manner. What we put out comes back to us. I wonder if the guy in the other car was practicing getting in touch with his anger!
In a future blog I will share with you another powerful experience that had to do with the power of thoughts and how they create... it is much more positive in nature... I still tear up thinking about it.
Until then,
May your thoughts be loving and kind,
Peace and love,
Dr. DyAnn
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Thursday, March 12, 2009
What we Hold Dear
Think about your friends and important relationships for a moment....Who are the people that you enjoy friendships with? Are there those with whom you once enjoyed a kinship and then it faded? What happened? Did one or both of you change? Are there those that you have known for years and even though miles may separate you, your hearts are still joined? What exactly are the characteristics you see as important in your friendships? What would you never tolerate? All of these questions involve the issue of values, or what we hold dear in defining ourselves and what is truly important in life.
Values. How do you know what you hold dear? One sure test is that when someone violates what is instinctively important to you, you will have a strong emotional reaction. For example, I find judging others to be a characteristic I will call a person out on. I think of it as an opportunity to teach and inform. On the other hand no one ever has to apologize if I am riding in their car and need to push aside snack wrappers, brochures and books! (You know who you are :)
Below is a list of what we might call values. There are many writings on this subject; this information is from an ethics course I recently took.The author of this list of personal characteristics is Dr. Milton Rokeach. It might be interesting for you and a friend to each rank order this list from the perspective of what you deem to be most to least important.
It also might be an interesting exercise to ask a friend how they would guess your list would be ranked.. if it is a lot different from how you see yourself, it may be time for you to do some work on value clarification. It is a lifelong journey and to know oneself as a changing being is certainly part of it.
Until next time,
Blessings and love to you and those you love,
Dr. DyAnn
Values. How do you know what you hold dear? One sure test is that when someone violates what is instinctively important to you, you will have a strong emotional reaction. For example, I find judging others to be a characteristic I will call a person out on. I think of it as an opportunity to teach and inform. On the other hand no one ever has to apologize if I am riding in their car and need to push aside snack wrappers, brochures and books! (You know who you are :)
Below is a list of what we might call values. There are many writings on this subject; this information is from an ethics course I recently took.The author of this list of personal characteristics is Dr. Milton Rokeach. It might be interesting for you and a friend to each rank order this list from the perspective of what you deem to be most to least important.
- Self-controlled (thinks first, restrained, self-disciplined)
- Honest (sincere, truthful, disclosing)
- Loving (affectionate, tender, caring)
- Ambitious (hard working, aspiring)
- Cheerful (light hearted, joyful)
- Responsible (dependable, reliable)
- Independent (self-reliant, self-sufficient)
- Broad minded (open minded, flexible thinker)
- Polite (courteous, well mannered)
- Forgiving (willing to pardon others)
- Intellectual (intelligent, knowledgeable)
- Helpful (working for the welfare of others)
- Obedient (dutiful, respectful)
- Capable (competent, skillful)
- Logical (consistent, rational. aware of reality)
- Courageous (strong, willing to stand up for beliefs)
- Imaginative (daring, creative)
- Clean (neat, tidy, well organized)
It also might be an interesting exercise to ask a friend how they would guess your list would be ranked.. if it is a lot different from how you see yourself, it may be time for you to do some work on value clarification. It is a lifelong journey and to know oneself as a changing being is certainly part of it.
Until next time,
Blessings and love to you and those you love,
Dr. DyAnn
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