Calm within the Storm

I was working with a woman a few weeks ago (I'll call her Kelly) on decision making. Her issue as she stated it, is that she can't seem to make a decision as small as what to order off the menu. Kelly is a very bright woman. She has a sharp mind and even without testing her I know she has a pretty high IQ. Kelly is not bothered by things like whether to order the chocolate cream or strawberry pie. She accepts it as part of her personality.
However, what does create a serious impact on her life is how Kelly "second guesses" herself when it comes to decisions that count. She can gather the facts, weigh each possible outcome, factor in her own values, interview trusted friends, come up with the best decision, have a plan and a time line. Then she freezes and starts the "what ifs" which are exemplary of fear and doubt.
Kelly is in the middle of a life changing decision about her marriage. Divorce, separation, stay with a man who won't work on things. And she went through the above standard decision making process. She searched her heart. And she knew that she was never going to attain happiness at any level while remaining in this marriage. Many details over a long period of time told her that. The decision to leave was difficult because of her values; when she said "forever" she meant it. But over the years the marriage had dissolved in every other way than officially.
When Kelly was finally able to come to her decision, true to the old pattern, she began to vacillate. The "what ifs" haunted her. She felt like she was right back to where she started with not knowing what to do.

When I saw Kelly for our last appointment she greeted me with a big smile and a sense of calm. "I have decided. And I am sure about it." Her face told the story of her inner confidence.
Of course I asked her how she pulled this miracle off!

She had a difficult time putting it into words. Things that are of a spiritual nature always are more difficult to describe. In essence she connected with what I call our Inner Knowing.
It could also be called instinct, intuition, the "still small voice within", or the God part within us. There are those of you who have learned to trust this. No one is without it. It is how we are guided. Terms like "something just told me" or "I had a hunch" are phrases we might hear as to how this phenomenon is described. This inner ability is also the part that makes the hair stand up on the back of our neck when we are in danger. It creates "coincidences" that light our pathway.

If you want to know how to connect with this wondrous part of you, it is very easy. Simply be calm. When we quiet the chattering of our thinking brain, what is left is the amazing gift of our knowing, creative, limitless mind.

Until next time - seek and enjoy the calm within,
Dr. DyAnn