Values. How do you know what you hold dear? One sure test is that when someone violates what is instinctively important to you, you will have a strong emotional reaction. For example, I find judging others to be a characteristic I will call a person out on. I think of it as an opportunity to teach and inform. On the other hand no one ever has to apologize if I am riding in their car and need to push aside snack wrappers, brochures and books! (You know who you are :)
Below is a list of what we might call values. There are many writings on this subject; this information is from an ethics course I recently took.The author of this list of personal characteristics is Dr. Milton Rokeach. It might be interesting for you and a friend to each rank order this list from the perspective of what you deem to be most to least important.
- Self-controlled (thinks first, restrained, self-disciplined)
- Honest (sincere, truthful, disclosing)
- Loving (affectionate, tender, caring)
- Ambitious (hard working, aspiring)
- Cheerful (light hearted, joyful)
- Responsible (dependable, reliable)
- Independent (self-reliant, self-sufficient)
- Broad minded (open minded, flexible thinker)
- Polite (courteous, well mannered)
- Forgiving (willing to pardon others)
- Intellectual (intelligent, knowledgeable)
- Helpful (working for the welfare of others)
- Obedient (dutiful, respectful)
- Capable (competent, skillful)
- Logical (consistent, rational. aware of reality)
- Courageous (strong, willing to stand up for beliefs)
- Imaginative (daring, creative)
- Clean (neat, tidy, well organized)
It also might be an interesting exercise to ask a friend how they would guess your list would be ranked.. if it is a lot different from how you see yourself, it may be time for you to do some work on value clarification. It is a lifelong journey and to know oneself as a changing being is certainly part of it.
Until next time,
Blessings and love to you and those you love,
Dr. DyAnn
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